It would be unusual to not experience some level of depression and guilt when going through a divorce considering all the financial, emotional, physical, and cognitive resources you and your soon to be ex have put into the relationship that is ending. Think of the ending of the relationship as inflicting an emotional wound, like a scab on your knee but an emotional scab, in order to improve your life for better. With time and effort, the emotional wound will, more likely than not, scab up and heal. With time and effort to allow the scab to heal, you will begin to feel better-have more emotional, mental and physical energy. The trick is to make choices to let the wound heal.

If depression, guilt, and/or other emotions are interfering with your ability to complete tasks during the day, such as work, you may want to schedule an appointment with a counselor, psychologist, psychiatrist or your medical doctor. 

Going through a divorce generally sucks. With time and good choices, most people's wounds heal and they move forward in their life to the next adventure.

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